Many spiritual teachings refer to the present moment as the only moment that exists and that is real. Books have been written to give ideas and tools to reach the ability to stay in the present moment.
Getting out of your mind and into your body leads to being in the present moment.
This practice can deepen the life quality, it can be a life sentence, a life choice, a daily meditation and exploration. But there is also the need to acknowledge that staying the present moment can be challenging and uncomfortable. When our body carries bad experiences that haven’t been released, it impacts our capacity to stay in the present.
For me, “healing” means to slowly expand the capacity to cope with the present moment and with experiences that life presents us. This is a journey and can happen in many different ways.
Becoming friends with the present moment was a crucial part of my healing journey. Becoming friends with the uncomfortable moments has become a platform for growth and expansion.
In life I find myself so many times in “in-between moments“. The question marks on my path. Where will I be when with whom? What will I do? How will relationships work out?
These moments are filled with uncertainty, insecurity and doubts. Should I? Would I? What? Who? Where? When? A serious line of question marks.
To be present with questions marks can be a real challenge. For me the most uncomfortable question marks are the ones that I cannot turn into exclamation marks. The ones that are not depending on my decision, hence their outcome have an impact on me.
Those uncertainties draw me away from the present moment. Waiting for an outcome, waiting for an answer, waiting for the seed that I planted to sprout and develop. I noticed that the “in-between moments” put me on hold. My system freezes while I am waiting for something to happen. Being patient and being present in the “in between- moments” is not my favorite healing exploration.
A few words from Eckart Tolle resonated with my situation: “Become friendly with the NOW, whatever the now is. Pay attention to the present and accept it“.
I never wanted to become friendly with an uncomfortable moment, I resisted it. Things shifted as I allowed myself that it is ok to be uncomfortable, it is even ok to feel afraid. It is also ok to feel uneasy with uncertainty. I stopped fighting the moment and I tried to partner with it.
Once the seeds have been sown with dedication and the best intentions, once they have been planted, once they have sun, water and earth they need one important thing: Time.
They need moments and space to develop. Some will sprout and grow, others won’t make it and that is also ok.
Doing nothing is hard but essential for growth.
The “in-between moment” became a “now moment” when I noticed what was happening during the day, while I was waiting that the seed might grow or not. What turned out to be very useful was engaging with actives and paying attention to joyful moments. The now is the only moment the counts and where life is actually happening.
That was the point when the moment was not putting me on hold anymore but I was holding the moment.
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